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Catherine Ann's avatar

Alexandra…you have the gift of verbage. I enjoy how you phrase things. I am 77 now, sorry to let you know that things can get worse…..

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Alexandra Marshall's avatar

oh i know it. i have so much respect for older people now that i know what aging means myself. i've only just started to lose friends to illness and all that. you people are all my heroes.

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Elizabeth's avatar

So much worse… like Lucy, I revere the mid.

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Michele's avatar

I empathize completely. Now in my early 50s, my body and mind are not what they used to be & I am perplexed by a sudden increase physical signs of aging. Somehow I thought I’d get around it? How is it that we all know we’ll age (if we’re lucky) but find it so foreign? I have relatively young children (a teen & a tween) & feel a great desire to take care of myself because we have many adventures ahead of us. On the other side has been the death of my parents, after witnessing their slow & heartbreaking decline. Mortality feels very real right now & my husband & I have discussions about living our best life now that we are certainly on the way down the proverbial hill. I highly recommend reading the novel “Sandwich” by Catherine Newman, a novel about being in the middle of kids growing and parents aging. It’s beautiful, hilarious, sentimental, and so so real…. Perfect for those of us who are Mid.

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Alexandra Marshall's avatar

i literally thought to myself as i sat through my 15th hot flash today that maybe i just wouldn't ever actually complete menopause. where do we get this???

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Stefanie Onieal's avatar

Much better than mid…this was an excellent read!

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BETTY ANN MARSHALL's avatar

The “Bacall interview” was actually, not an interview, but an experience had by a friend of mine who encountered Ms Bacall in an Armani boutique in Milan. Still, the point is, there are lots of parts of aging that can be daunting, but the experience and perspective gained, mostly compensate for them. Mostly.

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BETTY ANN MARSHALL's avatar

Correction, the above encounter with Ms Bacall was in Beverly Hills

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Alexandra Marshall's avatar

ah ok now i remember who told this to you. ok, thank you for the clarification!

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itzmelo's avatar

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 laughing and crying (my knees can relate).

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kal's avatar

This is excellent. Good luck with the door.

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Anna Dadamo's avatar

I feel this so deeply in every way. Thank you for putting it into words.

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